Surrender: The Missing Key to Attracting What You Want in Life
Surrendering can be the most difficult and uncomfortable thing to do, yet it is the most powerful. In a world where hustle culture teaches us to push and do, surrendering is often seen as passive or weak. However, it is essential to manifest our desires.
To manifest our desires, four things need to happen:
✨Intention
✨Emotions/Feelings
✨Aligned Action
✨Surrender
Firstly, we need to set our intention clearly and with clarity. Secondly, we need to embody the emotions and feelings connected to that intention. Thirdly, we need to take aligned action toward that intention. And finally, the most important step is surrendering and letting go of the how and when.
I have noticed that for most of us, including me surrendering is often the hardest thing to do. So let’s talk about surrender.
We live in a hustle culture where we’re taught to push, do, do, and do, and when things don’t go the way we wanted them to then we give up. We think that something is wrong with us or we’re not meant for the thing that we’re desiring.
Surrender is considered to be passive, as giving up, surrendering is not passive or weak, it is the most powerful thing that you can do and yet the most difficult and the most uncomfortable thing to do. It’s not letting go but giving over.
I love this excerpt from Michael Singer’s book Surrender Experiment:
"I clearly remember deciding that from now on if life was unfolding in a certain way and the only reason I was resisting it was because of a personal preference, I would let go of my preference and let life be in charge.”
Can we give up the preference of things unfolding for us in our preferred way and let the universe surprise us?
So if you intend to attract romantic love in your life and it’s taking too long or not working out with a certain person instead of giving up can you surrender?
Can you give up the need for meeting men only organically and resisting online dating for example and be prepared to be surprised?
Can you give up trying to make it work with your ex and open yourself up to other wonderful men around?
You’ve set a clear intention that you desire to attract romantic love in your life and you have connected with and embodied the emotions that having love in your life will bring. You’re healing, doing the inner work, going out on dates so you’re taking aligned action, and yet you’ve not attracted the love you desire, you keep experiencing unfavorable situations, and not attracting the right man for you, and you want to give up.
If this is you, imagine you’re meeting your friends for dinner, and you’re excited about seeing them and having a wonderful evening. You get in your car and enter the address in Google Maps or your car’s navigation system and you start driving. While you’re driving the suggested route has construction and requires you to take a detour which means you’ll get to the restaurant later than expected. Your ETA has changed.
What do you do in this instance? Because your preferred route is closed do you say fuel it, I’m not going to meet my friends and turn back to go home or do you take the detour because you’re excited to see your friends even if you get there late and you have to take a different route?
I’m pretty confident you do the latter…
So consider your journey to attracting romantic love like driving, you’re on a journey and when you meet your love you’ll be excited and know that there may be closures and detours on the way (unfavorable men, men not calling you back, not asking you out on second and third dates, emotionally unavailable men, etc. and that you may have to do things differently than you had preferred, and it may take you longer to get to him than you had expected but eventually you’ll meet him and you’ll be so happy that you didn’t give up and continued on your journey.
Like you surrender and take a different route when driving, knowing with 100% belief and confidence that you’ll get to your destination do the same with dating and attracting romantic love, have 100% faith and confidence that you’ll meet him even if it takes longer snd surrender to the process.
There is beauty in surrender.
What helps me in the surrendering process is mindfulness and meditation. I reconnected with this beautiful childhood mantra last week when I went to my meditation class it’s the mantra for surrendering:
TVAMEVA MATA CHA PITA TVAMEVA
TVAMEVA BANDHU CHA SAKHA TVAMEVA
TVAMEVA VIDYA DRAVINAM TVAMEVA
TVAMEVA SARVAM MAMA DEVA DEVA
Which means:
O Divine Source of Life,
I acknowledge that you alone are my mother and my father.
You are my friend and my loving companion.
You are my wisdom and my wealth,
O Supreme, I acknowledge that you are everything there is. And that you are my guide and you are everything to me.
So beautiful and powerful.
I love chanting this mantra and knowing that I am not alone in my life’s journey.
Know that you’re not alone on your journey to love follow the four steps of setting your intention, embodying the feelings and emotions connected with the intention that you’re setting, taking aligned action, and surrendering, knowing that your best is unfolding for you and it’s inevitable.
P.S. I have 3 openings for mentorship for 3, 6, or 12 months containers so if your clear intention is to attract romantic love in your life in 2023 and you’ll like me to be your guide, please send me an email at [email protected] and let’s chat
May you find peace and trust in the journey of surrender, knowing that the universe has a plan for you that is beyond your wildest dreams.
Wishing you love and light on your path.
